Domestic violence against women remains a major concern in today’s society. The problem is so severe that it affects people from all ways of life regardless of socio-ecomomic status, ethnicity, age and religion. The statistics on this issue are alarming.While domestic violence exists in both Muslim and non-Muslim societies, the position of Islam on the kind treatment of women is very clear as mentioned in the Qur’an and exemplified through the life and character of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. The Prophet ﷺ taught that a husband’s nice treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of his faith.
It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas that:the Prophet said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” [Ibn Majah Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1977]Abu Hurairah narrated that The Messenger of Allah said:“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” [Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1162]
Allah instructs men to be nice to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability. A devout Muslim should always remember that pleasing his wife is part of faith and earns the pleasure of God, whilst dealing with her unjustly will earn God’s anger.
“…..And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.”[Quran 4:19]
There are numerous narrations of the Prophet ﷺ which clearly discourage and even prohibit beating, hitting, and use of any brutal force against wives, such that would cause bodily harm or injuries. He ﷺ, being the role model for all husbands, himself never resorted to such a measure with any of his wives, speaks volumes of his character as a husband which all men should emulate. Some of the narrations are provided below:
‘A’isha reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) never beat anyone with his hand, neither a woman nor a servant. [Sahih Muslim 2328 a]
It was narrated that ‘Aishah said:”The Messenger of Allah never beat any of his servants, or wives, and his hand never hit anything.” [Ibn Majah Vol. 3, Book 9, Hadith 1984]
`A’isha said:the Messenger of Allah (saws ) never struck a servant or a woman.[Sunan Abu Dawud 4786]
He also advised others not to beat wives and any women;
Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri:Mu’awiyah asked: Messenger of Allah, what is the right of the wife of one of us over him? He replied: That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her.[Sunan Abu Dawud 2142]
Bahz bin Hakim reported on the authority of his father from his grandfather (Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah) as saying:I said: Messenger of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.
Abu Dawud said: The version of Shu’bah has: That you give her food when you have food yourself, and that you clothe her when you clothe yourself. [Sunan Abi Dawud 2143]
Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri:I went to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them. [Sunan Abi Dawud 2144]
Iyas bin ‘Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Do not beat Allah’s bondwomen.” When ‘Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) came to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and complained saying: “The women have become very daring towards their husbands,” He (ﷺ) gave permission to beat them. Then many women went to the family of the Messenger of Allah (wives) complaining of their husbands, and he (the Prophet (ﷺ)) said, “Many women have gone round Muhammad’s family complaining of their husbands. Those who do so, that is, those who take to beating their wives, are not the best among you”.[Abu Dawud].[Riyadh-US-Salehin Book 1, Hadith 279]
So that is it folks! ISLAM enjoins kind treatment of women and categorically forbids domestic violence. May ALLAH guide us all! Aameen!!