Children are no doubt a great gift from Almighty Allah to all parents. Parents must think of their children as such treasures that all the wealth and material resources are worthless as when compared to one’s children. Parents should thank and be grateful to Almighty Allah for blessing us with children whether they are boys or girls.Every child whether male or female is a blessing from Allah (SWT). The Noble Qur’an states that:
To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth; He creates what he wills. He gives to whom He wills female [children], and He gives to whom He wills males.Or He makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent.[Qur’an 42:49-50]
Today, it is quite disheartening to see that some parents rejoice when the newborn child is a male and show their dissatisfaction when the child is a female.I don’t know why people abort female foetus or even dump a Female baby by the roadside or in a dustbin.This luxury enslaved modern era, too, is treating female child as a menace. But, this should not be the attitude. Islam does not condone this type of behaviour, as such was the manner of the parents in the time of ignorance.Islam condemned the evil practice of the killing of female children in the pre-Islamic era.
In pre-Islamic times, the Arabs used to be disheartened and annoyed with the birth of girls, so that a father, when informed his wife had given birth to a girl, said, “By Allah she is not as blissful as a son; her defense is crying and her care is but stealing!” He meant she could not defend her father and her family except by screaming and crying, not by fighting and carrying arms. She also cannot be good to them and care for them except by taking from her husband’s money to give to her family. Their traditions allowed the father to bury his daughter alive for actual poverty, or for expected poverty, or out of fear of a disgrace she might bring upon them when she grew up.Through scathing locutions Almighty Allah restrained such a savagery, and admonished them and in that context, the Qur’an says, by denouncing and derogating them:
“And when the girl-child who was buried alive is asked. Upon what sin was she killed for.” [Surah al-Takweer, Verses 8-9]
The Qur’an also describes the condition of fathers when daughters were born:
“And when one among of them receives the glad tidings of a daughter, his face turns black for the day, and he remains seething. Hiding from the people because of the evil of the tidings; “Will he keep her with disgrace, or bury her beneath the earth?”; pay heed! Very evil is the judgment they impose!” [Surah al-Nahl, Verse 58-59]
O people GIRL CHILD – IS A BLESSING.Islam terms the birth of female children as blessing and has advised its followers that the birth of female children should not be a sad occasion for the families but an occasion to rejoice for this great blessing.Think O Human how amusing is a wee girl’s life! Her little heart fraught with teeny weeny things would always deluge in love and kindness. Even a big, humiliating quarrel would not last long in her sweet little heart, which is already irresistible to trifling grieves. Daughters are not like sons, who easily sheer away to the world of coteries. Her heart always retains a contiguous affinity towards her mom and dad. That fondling and longing would never vanish despite of getting fledged. We all relish the solace of womanhood through a darling daughter, or a loving younger sister, or a caring elder sister, or a romantic life partner or an affectionate mother. The hearty emotions that the Most Benevolent, The Merciful Lord, has obscured in her, serve as a curing medicine for all mental obsessions. With a single smile, she could be an enormous solace.
Islam terms the birth of female children as blessing and has advised its followers that the birth of female children should not be a sad occasion for the families but an occasion to rejoice for this great blessing.Islam has immensely respected the solace aka Women. The ‘buried infant’ (of Jahiliyya or Pre-Mohammed SAW Arabia) has been uplifted with the ‘right of inheritance’, by this religion. The Prophet ﷺ, who advised “go slowly, she is a crystal pot”, to the Sahaba who was trotting on a camel along with his daughter, is the greatest liberator of women ever in the history. Islam uplifted her by yielding rights and responsibilities; praised that the anchor of glory is not birth but obligation; accorded the freedom of opinion and accolade; brought her forward into the mainstream society and thus rebuked such Arabian minds who surmised girl child as a bane.
The open and authentic texts, with the enhanced and repeated good news, the birth of girls is not at all a fearful burden nor is it a bad omen. On the contrary, it is a blessing to be thanked for and a mercy to be desired and requested because it is a blessing of the Almighty and a reward to be gained.The Hadees are as follows:
Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri narrated that :the Messenger of Allah said: “There is no one who has three daughters, or three sisters, and he treats them well, except that he enters paradise.”[ Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1912]
Aishah narrated that the:Messenger of Allah said:”Whoever is tried with something from daughters, and he is patient with them, they will be a barrier from the Fire for him.”[ Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1913]
Abu Bakr bin ‘Ubaidullah bin Anas bin Malik narrated [from Anas] that:
the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever raises two girls then I and he will enter Paradise like these two.” And he indicated with his two fingers.[ Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1914]
Aishah said:”A woman came to me with two daughters. She was asking (for food) but I did not have anything with me except a date. So I gave it to her and she divided it between her two daughters without eating any of it herself. Then she got up to leave, and the Prophet entered, and I informed him about her. So the Prophet said: ” Whoever is tested something from these daughters (and he/she passes the test), they will be a screen for them from the Fire.”[ Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1915]
Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri narrated that :the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever has three daughters, or three sisters, or two daughters, or two sisters and he keeps good company with them and fears Allah regarding them, then Paradise is for him.[ Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1916]
There are also many hadees for the virtue of raising daughter which you can find in: [Sahih al-Bukhari 5993],[Sahih al-Bukhari 5995],[Sahih Muslim 2629],[ Sahih Muslim 2630][ Sahih Muslim 2631].
It is evident from Prophet’s ﷺ sayings that a daughter is bestowed as a path to eternal success for both mom and dad. Moreover, he exhorted that the attitude towards her, her upbringing and tutelage must be done with due assiduity and vigilance.Prophet ﷺ adored both the tenderhearted women with due assiduity, yet with a plethora of affection.
It’s also been reported that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ has said that :
“Whenever you buy anything from the market place first present it to your female children then to your male children.”
Dear brothers and sisters! Rejoice on the birth of your daughters, love and guide them and give them that which is due to them from your belongings. Do not deprive them of their inheritance as they also have say in this. Remember! Daughters are a blessing and not a burden. Daughters are a gift from Almighty Allah. Those parents who are kind towards them, then Almighty Allah is generous towards such parents. Those who are merciful to their daughters, Almighty Allah is Merciful towards them.
Being a naive presence of fondness and amity, and being a fresh spring that carries the tenderness of a rose petal, let every wee girl be the purity of her dwelling. Through wiggling, wrangling and singing, may she make this life amazing. May those dew sparkling eyes never bedew with tears. Our little daughters are the lovely gifts from The Almighty Allah. With deluging affection and pamperings, darn nests for them.