Do not wish for the things that others have

Mankind is naturally inclined to feel uneasy whenever he sees someone else ahead of him.Imam Ahmad recorded that Umm Salamah said, “O Messenger of Allah! Men go to battle, but we do not go to battle, and we earn one-half of the inheritance (that men get).On this occasion Allah has revealed the following verse:

And do not wish for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allah of his bounty. Indeed Allah is ever, of all things, Knowing. [Qur’an 4:32]

This verse embodies a very important directive. By heeding it, mankind would be able to achieve a great measure of peace and tranquility. Allah has not created all of us alike. Some are handsome while others are ugly. The voices of some are sweet and those of others repulsive. Some are physically strong others are weak. Some have sound limbs others have inherent deformities. Some possess outstanding physical and mental abilities while others lack them. Some are born in favourable circumstances and others not. Some have been endowed with more resources than others. It is this diversity which gives variety to human civilization, and hence serves a useful purpose. Whenever men/women superimposes distinctions of his own over and above this natural inequality he/she disrupts the natural order of things, and paves the way for corruption. Likewise, when anyone attempts to obliterate all differences between human beings he in fact engages in a war against nature and inflicts wrongs of another kind. Mankind is naturally inclined to feel uneasy whenever he sees someone else ahead of him. This is the root of jealousy and envy, of cut-throat competition and animosity, of mutual strife and conflict. These feelings often obsess a person to such a degree that whenever fair means do not prove effective, he resorts to unfair means to achieve his ambitions. In the present verse, Allah directs us not to allow this kind of mentality to take hold of us. The import of the directive is that one should not yearn for the good that Allah has bestowed on others. One should rather pray to Allah to bestow upon one the good which is in one’s best interests according to Allah’s wisdom and knowledge.

As Feminism is affecting peoples’ heart very much especially our Muslim womenfolks. And I am really concerned about this. Lots of Muslim women ask me concerning inheritance issues,men marrying 4,Men having degree o’er women,so on and so forth and expressed their dissatisfaction o’er these. So for all this reason I am writing an extra paragraph as an advice for Muslim Women in light of the above Qur’an verse.I want to start by mentioning a Qur’an verse which is:

O you who have believed, do not put [yourselves] before Allah and His Messenger but fear Allah . Indeed, Allah is Hearing and Knowing. [Qur’an 49:1]

In these Ayat, Allah the Exalted teaches His faithful servants the good manners they should observe with the Messenger , which are respect, honor and esteem. It does not behove a believing man and a believing woman that when Allah and His Messenger have given their decision in a matter, they should exercise an Option in that matter of theirs, and here it is said that the believers should not decide their matters themselves by their own initiative, but should look for guidance in Allah’s Book and His Prophet’s Sunnah concerning those matters.

Allah has singled out men for some virtues and rulings, and He has singled out women for other virtues and rulings. It is not permissible for any man to wish for that which has been granted to women only, nor is it permissible for any woman to wish for that which has been granted to men.Allah forbids the believers to wish for that with which Allah has favoured others, whether that is in things that are possible or things that are impossible. Women should not wish for the things that have been bestowed uniquely upon men, by which Allah has favoured them over women, and no poor person or person who has shortcomings should merely wish for the position of one who is rich or perfect, because this is the essence of destructive envy (hasad)… and because that implies displeasure with the decree of Allah.

It is not for a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter, that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.[Qur’an 33:36]

But no, by your Lord, they will not [truly] believe until they make you, [O Muhammad], judge concerning that over which they dispute among themselves and then find within themselves no discomfort from what you have judged and submit in [full, willing] submission.[4:65]

To be a Muslim means to surrender one’s freedom of opinion and action before Allah and His Messenger. The one who desires to remain a Muslim will inevitably have to bow down to the Command of Allah and His Prophet, and the one who is not inclined to bow will have to admit that he is not a Muslim. If he does not admit he will be regarded as a hypocrite both by Allah and by the people even though he might proclaim to be a Muslim at the top of his voice.

So folks, it’s better we don’t yearn for the things and favours what Allah has bestowed upon others. Instead we should be thankful and say: ‘ALHAMDULILLAH’, for what Allah has given us and bestowed us with. As we learn from Qur’an that Allah increases His favour upon those who thank him.

‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.'[Qur’an 14:7]

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. And, Allah Alone Knows Best!!


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